Recently I was in a slump. My thoughts were negative, my anxiety level was high, and my motivation level was low. My mood was bad and getting worse. I needed a quick fix. I had to raise my vibes, stat!
Wouldn’t it be great to live in a world where the sun is always shining, the news is always good, everybody always feels like dancing (is that just me?!) and our moods and vibes are always high? As hard as we try to keep our vibrational levels up, everybody hits a low sometimes. When those lows hit, here are ten surefire, bad-mood-killing, vibe-raising, quick fixes!
Gratitude is the act of taking time to appreciate all of the things you have in your life. Practicing gratitude does not have to be anything complicated or time-consuming. Gratitude is a simple act that can pack a powerful positivity punch into your life. Gratitude not only makes us feel good, but it is also the greatest (and easiest) way to attract more abundance, love, peace, success, health, and connection to your life. The more we are grateful for what we already have, the more we end up having to be grateful for. It’s so simple!
Below is a list of ways that you can cultivate the attitude of gratitude into your life. Remember, there is no ‘right’ way to practice gratitude…find what works best for you and do it!
Gratitude. Such a simple word with so much power. Gratitude is the act of giving thanks and having an appreciation for the things in your life, either tangible or intangible. Research has shown that gratitude increases happiness, helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. Below is a list of five science-based reasons why gratitude is good for everyone in all settings.
With the hustle of the world today, it is so easy to get lost in the busyness of everyday life. Unfortunately, the busier we are, the less we actually pay attention to ourselves, our health, and enjoying the world around us. Below are three simple tasks to incorporate into your day to be happier, healthier and more satisfied.
My husband and I just returned from an amazing trip to Nashville with two other couples. (Sidebar, if you have never been to Nashville I highly recommend! There was something for new country lovers, Honky Tonk lovers, and non-country lovers. Nashville was awesome!)
One of the things my husband and I did when we were there was tour the Ryman Auditorium. For those of you who know nothing about the Ryman, it is pretty much the Holy Grail of live music venues. It is the ultimate place to perform if you are a country music singer (or really just a singer in general.)
For the last part of the Ryman tour, people could go up on the stage and have their picture taken. A couple guitars and a microphone could be used as props. I begged my husband to go up there and take a picture with me, but he wouldn’t. I was not about to miss out on the chance to step on the same stage that has graced the likes of music legends such as Loretta Lynn, Johnny Cash, Garth Brooks, and The Wiggles…wait, what?! Anyway, I grabbed a guitar, walked up on the stage and stood there and smiled for the camera. So, what does this have to do with positivity and finding your Highest Self? I’ll tell you.
I live in Minnesota. Today I was at the Mall of America with my two daughters. We were walking around the mall, along with thousands of other people, enjoying a carefree afternoon. Before we left, we decided to grab a quick bite to eat at the food court. It took us awhile, but we finally found an open table and sat down. As we were eating, I was looking around at the greatness of this mall. I was in the largest mall in the world. Over 40 million people visit this mall each year. Many of those people travel a great distance to get here, many even from other countries. Some of these visitors actually plan their entire vacations around this magnificent mall. I sat in the food court and noticed all of the people surrounding me, families with small children and strollers, teenagers hanging out with their friends, parents, grandparents, tourists walking around with their suitcases, every age, color, and nationality coming together at this great place…the largest mall in the entire world. That is when sadness overcame me.
I am a worrier. I have always been a worrier, it was a trait that I was born with. I feel if I know what the worst case scenario could be, then I can be more prepared in case it happens. Now that I understand more about the idea of manifesting, thoughts become things, and all of that good stuff this has definitely been a trait that I am trying to change.
Anxiety and fear are often words that are used interchangeably, but in reality fear and anxiety are two completely different things. The definition of fear is “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger.” Let me stress that last part, impending danger. Think about the whole fight or flight and caveman scenario. A caveman goes out hunting and a giant, hungry saber-tooth tiger jumps out at him. The caveman is now in a situation where he is experiencing a distressing emotion caused by impending danger. That, my friend, is true Fear! His body then does all kinds of amazing things, things he doesn’t even think about and in a split second the caveman makes the subconscious decision to fight or take flight. The caveman’s body responded to fear of impending danger. Fear is a productive emotion, based on the danger that is actually happening. Fear is needed for survival.
The other day I went for a run and it started to rain. It was not raining very hard, so I decided to finish my run instead of heading home. As I ran past my neighbor’s house I heard my neighbor’s young son ask his mom why I was running in the rain. His mom replied “I have no idea! It doesn’t look like anyone is chasing her!” I had to smile at this comment as I am sure it seemed silly to them that I would be running in the rain while they were running into the house to get out of the rain. For the duration of my run, I was thinking about the boy’s comment. Why was I running in the rain?
I run because it makes me feel good both physically and mentally. I run because I get stressed out at work. I run because my kids drive me crazy sometimes. I run because it is a beautiful day and I need to get outside and feel the sun. I run because I have to clear my mind and stay sane. I run because I promised myself that I would.
Whether you are a marathon runner or watching marathons of Netflix shows, we all need motivation to get moving. If you are just starting out with an exercise program, or if you are trying to talk yourself into doing your daily workout, you need to find some motivation. Your motivation might be different than mine, but we all have our own motivation and our own reasons why. The key to a successful workout program is to figure out your ‘why’ and come up with a plan. Are you are trying to lose weight? Maybe you want to get stronger, faster, leaner, healthier physically or mentally? So, how do you figure out your motivation and develop a plan? Start with the end in mind and follow these steps.
I have always loved writing. When I was in seventh grade my creative writing teacher wrote on my paper that my story was the best she had ever read. In college, my History professor gave me an A+ on my book review and said that in all of his years of teaching my book review was the best he had ever read. I was always proud of my writing and felt like the words would just flow from me. I have felt deep within my soul that I was born to write a book. I have read countless books about writing books, I have paid coaches and even psychics (lots of money!) to tell me I should write a book. I have even written down hundreds of ideas that I would include in my book. I knew my soul, my Higher Self, was yearning to write my book. Yet, when I finally made the leap to follow my soul and sit down and start writing, nothing came. My mind was blank, my words wouldn’t flow, I tried to type but nothing sounded right. All I could think of is that a seventh-grade paper doesn’t seem so impressive now. It was seventh-grade!! And what does a History professor know about good writing anyway, he’s a History professor! I know people who can write, they are good with grammar. They know how to use a comma correctly. I, on the other hand, can write an entire paragraph and only use one period and about 45 commas. Who am I kidding? I am not good enough to be a writer.
These, my friends, are my limiting beliefs. They are my ‘go to thoughts’ that allows me to stay comfortable when I try to do something scary and uncomfortable. They creep up in my mind when I am entering uncomfortable territory, and they prevent me from moving forward. We all have these beliefs, these things that hold us back and prevent us from being our best selves. I am sure if I asked you to close your eyes and visualize the life of your dreams right now you could probably come up with at least one BIG reason why you cannot/will not/ should not achieve that dream. Those, my friends, are your limiting beliefs.
A while back I had the amazing opportunity to chat with a local Career Coach. During our discussion, she asked me what I really wanted to be doing in my career. I told her all the amazing things that I would love to do. Write, coach, speak to groups, lead retreats, the list went on and on. Then she asked me such a simple, but powerful question “How many of those things are you currently doing?” Whoa, What?? Well, I think about those things all the time. I envision myself doing all of those things, I even almost attempted to do some (or one) of those things. But, actually doing…zero.
That’s when she told me those magic words we all know so well (thanks to Nike)…you need to just do it. She asked me how I know what my dream career looks like if I have never actually done it? How do I know I that would love to stand in front of groups of people and attempt to motivate them by my words? How do I know I would love to lead people on retreats? How do I know I would love to coach people to reach their highest goals if I have never tried? Huh, I never thought about it like that. But, she was right. Just because I majored in Speech in college does not mean I would still love standing in front of people and speaking. Maybe now public speaking has become another one of those crazy phobias I seem to develop as I get older! Just because I used to love to write doesn’t mean I still enjoy it. Yikes! I guess it was time to stop dreaming and start doing! I needed to find out if my dream career really was still my dream!